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8/4/2022

6 Ways to Help Shy Kids Feel More Confident

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If you’re a parent of a shy kid, you may feel slightly unsure whether their introverted nature is affecting their confidence. It’s okay if your child doesn’t like the limelight, but no parent wants their child to miss out on significant social and learning opportunities because they were too nervous to get into the action. 

Typically, children prone to being shy can be highly-sensitive and are more strongly impacted by their environment. They may struggle to communicate with others and participate in group activities. However, shyness has many silver linings, including that it allows them to develop excellent active listening skills. Often, shy kids just need a little guidance and direction to help them feel more comfortable in social situations, and parents and caregivers can help.

Parenting Shy Kids: Avoid Labels

Parents of shy kids often take a definitive approach: they characterize their child as shy and label them when talking to others. But no child is one single thing. There are likely instances when your child is shy and others when they are social and talkative. The variable may be the environment.

When parenting shy kids, try to avoid using any labels. Sometimes telling a child they are shy can encourage them not to push their boundaries. Instead, let them know that it is okay to feel frightened or uncomfortable in new situations and guide them through their feelings. 

6 Ways to Help Your Shy Child Break Out of Their Shell

If your child is often shy or anxious, and you’re concerned they’re missing out on opportunities to learn and develop, there are strategies to help them break out of their shell. Here are six ways to make your shy child confident in any situation: 

1. Use Praise

As parents, it’s normal to want to intervene when your child struggles in a social situation. The best action you can take is to let them navigate their own way through. Let’s say you are at a restaurant and a waiter asks your child what they would like. Instead of answering for them, let them communicate what they want. Even if they struggle, this is a big step forward for them.

When you notice your child handling a social situation well, praise them. Tell them how proud you are of them and how well they did. Make sure to point out any good behaviors, such as being polite and kind. This helps shy kids increase their confidence. 

2. Model Self-Confidence

Many children learn to interact in social situations by mimicking their parents. So one of the best ways you can encourage your shy kid to feel more confident is by showing them how to socialize and model the behaviors you want to see. Take initiative to approach someone new. Be warm and friendly when meeting new people. Make sure that your child is seeing you socialize with your own friends. 

Even if you do feel anxious yourself, try not to show it. This will help your child feel more comfortable around other people. And don’t expect your child to do anything you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing yourself. 

3. Prepare Them For Uncomfortable Situations

Shyness can stem from anxiety, and one way to overcome anxiety is to prepare your child for new and uncomfortable situations. For example, if your child has been invited to a birthday party, you can prepare your child by talking them through the situation beforehand. Tell them where they’ll be going, who will be there, what will happen, and how long the party is. Let them ask questions. You may even want to visit the venue beforehand to help them visualize what will happen on the day of the party. The more you can prepare your shy kid for an uncomfortable situation, the more confident they’ll feel when it’s happening in real time. 

4. Embrace Play

Pretend play and role-playing are some of the best activities for a shy child. The benefits of roleplay for kids are many for early learning development. By pretending to be a character or acting out certain situations, your child can practice their social skills in a stress-free environment. 

Consider playing a game where you and your child have to go to a grocery store. You can pretend to be the cashier while your child is the customer. If your child has difficulty making new friends, role-play a scenario that encourages them to learn how to make small talk with others. 

5. Encourage Independence

Parents of shy kids are all too familiar with their child clinging to their side or being afraid to try something new. This can make you get into the habit of doing things for them rather than allowing them to push their comfort zone. One of the keys to helping your child overcome shyness is encouraging them to become independent. 

You can start small by giving them age-appropriate chores to do at home. Once you start seeing their confidence grow, add another element. Maybe the next time you’re in the grocery store, ask them to bring some items to the cashier. Small steps in the right direction will encourage independence and boost their confidence. Here are other ways to promote independence in toddlers and preschoolers. 

6. Give Them Opportunities to Separate From You and Socialize with Peers

Providing your child with an opportunity to attend a group child care setting like daycare or preschool can be incredibly beneficial for their social skills. Many parents find that childcare benefits their shy kids and builds their self-esteem and confidence levels.  At Vivvi, our inquiry-based curriculum provides a learning environment where they can pursue their own interests and social connections. Our experienced educators help children build their confidence through gentle coaching and a variety of early learning activities. The Vivvi learning model fosters your child’s natural curiosity in a warm, safe, and inviting environment. 

Remember, it takes time for children to break out of their shells. Overcoming shyness is a process, so expect a period of adjustment to any new social setting. Continue to support and encourage them as they learn to feel more confident. 

How to Make Shy Kids Feel More Confident: Support Them

For some young children, being shy is a part of who they are, and that’s perfectly okay. Support them in learning how to be social and kind to everyone they interact with. When children feel supported by parents, they are more likely to take small steps toward trying new things and being more confident. 

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